Invited to a ritual by a Pagan/Wiccan friend? Simply curious and thinking
about checking out a public ritual? Here are some tips on what to
expect.
Public rituals:
A ritual is considered public if it is advertised in a flyer or on a
website. Rituals advertised on Internet email lists are usually public,
and usually state clearly if they are not (e.g. "This ritual is only for
those who have attended six or more sessions of our classes in
Witchcraft"). Email/ call the organizers if you're not sure if it's okay
for you to attend.
Organizers of public rituals usually plan for the "lowest common
denominator," meaning someone who knows almost nothing about Paganism.
This means they usually plan to explain what they are doing, and to make
it fairly clear when you ought to participate and what you ought to do.
Public rituals tend to be fairly scripted, and designated people usually
have specific parts to play. This means that you, as an attendee, are
unlikely to be called on to do anything other than what the rest of the
group is doing. Still, you may feel more comfortable if you're familiar
with the basic ritual outline below, and have an idea of what to
expect.
Private Rituals:
If you are invited to a private ritual (open only to friends,
acquaintances, covenmates, etc.), you should ask the person who invited
you to give you an idea of what will happen in the ritual, what you should
bring, what you should wear, etc. Find out if there will be other new people
there, or if you are the only guest. If you have physical disabilities
or limited mobility, find out if there will be dancing/ movement, and if
so, what accomodations can be made for you.
Ahead of Time
Clothing: Usually you have a pretty wide latitude as far as what
to wear to ritual, assuming the flyer/ website/ your inviter doesn't
specify (I went to a Winter Solstice ritual once where everyone was asked
to wear white). At any given ritual, you will usually find people wearing
all sorts of clothing, including jeans, robes, quasi-medieval garb, and
regular "nice" clothing (sometimes
more than one of these at once!). As a guest, it may be more respectful
not to wear jeans, but don't feel you have to be super-formal; wear
something loose and comfortable. You will probably stand out less in
darker colors. Find out if the ritual is outdoor or indoor - you want to
dress appropriately for the weather if it is outdoors.
What to Bring: Sometimes you will be asked for a small donation
(this is usually stated on a flyer or announcement). Many Pagan rituals
include a potluck portion, and you may be asked to bring something to eat
or drink. There's always someone who brings a bag of potato chips, but
people tend to prefer natural/ whole foods or homemade foods.
Timing:As a guest, it is polite to arrive on time. But be prepared
for the
ritual to start late, usually at least 15 minutes late and up to an hour
late. This drives me crazy, but it's how things are. Most public rituals
don't last longer than 1 1/2 - 2 hours, but I wouldn't schedule anything
right afterward if you can help it. It may start late (and thus run later
than expected), or it may take longer due to more people showing up than
the organizers planned for, or the incense may set off a fire alarm (this
happened in the middle of one public ritual I attended, and we all had to
wait outside until the firefighters had cleared the building!). Or you
may want to stay afterward to eat and/or talk with folks - people tend to
linger after rituals. Of course, staying after to help the organizers
clean up is a great way to endear yourself to them.
The Occasion: You may want to do a little research beforehand on
what the ritual is celebrating. Most public rituals are held at one of the
eight seasonal holidays, or on a new or full moon. Knowing the purpose of
the ritual can give you an idea in advance of what the themes will be; for
example, a Fall Equinox ritual may include giving thanks for the harvest.
For more on the holidays, see here.
What Makes Pagan Ritual Different
If you are used to going to Christian or Jewish religious services, you
may find Pagan ritual different. For one thing, you will probably not be
given a book or sheet of paper to follow along. This means you will need
to pay a little more attention to directions and cues from the ritual
leaders. For another, rituals tend to be more participatory than many
Jewish and Christian services (especially "high church" Catholic or
Anglican services). This is especially true for private
rituals, but even in public rituals you may be expected to learn a new
song and join in the chant, dance around a fire, come to the center of the
circle to write down your wishes for the coming year, and so on. People
may speak about the meaning of the holiday, or there may be a meditation,
but there will not be a sermon per se.
If you are a non-Pagan attendee at a Pagan ritual, be assured that no one
will ask you to profess your beliefs publicly. Maybe you don't believe in
the gods or goddesses invoked; maybe you think all this magic stuff is a
bunch of hogwash; or maybe you find the ritual interesting in a detached,
academic way, but don't really see what others get out of it. As long as
you are respectful, you will be welcome in the circle. If you feel
some ritual action is against your religious faith, you can politely
step away or signal your wish to sit it out (e.g. politely shake your head
when offered food, or move out of the circle when dancing begins).
Following is a fairly standard/ generic ritual outline (the same one given
in my Witchcraft 101 page) with notes about what
to expect as an attendee. I'm focusing mainly on public rituals here
because they are a common entry point for curious people; private rituals
vary more widely, but much of what I say is applicable to many private
rituals also.
- Cleansing/ purifying the space to set it apart for ritual.
This often involves actions like burning incense, sweeping
with a broom, or sprinkling salt water. In most cases, the organizers will
do some of this before anyone arrives. Sometimes you may be asked to pause
at the door to the space and clear your mind or banish extraneous
thoughts.
- Calling on the gods and the four elements:
The gods may be called on as individual gods ("I invoke
Artemis and Apollo") or as archetypes ("I call on the Lord and Lady of the
Hunt"). The four elements - earth, air, fire, and water - are each invoked
at one of the four directions. At public rituals (and many private
rituals), designated people will perform the invocations as the attendees
watch and listen. Sometimes an invocation ends with a phrase like "Hail
and welcome" which is then repeated by the whole group.
- Casting the circle to create sacred space:
The circle may be created by everyone holding hands together
and focusing their intent (perhaps humming one note or singing a song
together), or by one person drawing a physical circle with an athame
(sacred knife), wand, staff, or their own hand. Once the circle has been
cast, try to stay roughly within the circle as it was drawn (often the
perimeters are marked by torches or altars at the four corners). If you
need to leave during the ritual, ask someone to "cut a door" in the circle
for you. They will draw the outline of a door with their hand or an
athame, wand, or staff. If you return afterwards, someone will cut another
door for you to re-enter.
- Statement of intention for the ritual:
Usually made by a priest/ess or leader of the ritual. Most
intentions can be described by one of the following: Working magick toward
a goal. Honoring a change in someone's life. Celebrating the cycle of
seasons. The type of statement you are likely to hear in a public ritual
goes something like this: "We gather together on this, the longest night
of the year. This is the time when the sun has gone into darkness; but we
know the light will return. Tonight, in this circle, we celebrate the
light that lives in each of us." (Winter Solstice)
- The main body of the ritual
This could involve actions such as:
- Performing ritual drama (acting out a seasonal story). Ritual drama is
very common in public ritual (and occurs frequently in
private rituals as well), especially at the eight seasonal holidays. For
example, in the first public ritual I helped to organize, I took part in a
ritual re-telling of the myth of Demeter and Persephone; I acted as
Persephone, taking leave of her mother Demeter to go into the underworld.
This was relevant to the season, as it was an Autumn Equinox ritual, at
the time when the days start getting longer. Ritual drama usually does not
demand any participation from ritual attendees; however, it is often
followed by a more participatory action like the following two
examples.
- Raising energy by dancing and singing, usually dancing around in a
circle while singing a short chant over and over. If you don't wish to
participate in dancing, you may want to step backwards out of the circle
of people (but try to stay within the "circle" of energy that was created
earlier).
- Other symbolic actions. These are usually general enough to apply to
most people's lives, and are unlikely to offend the non-Pagan visitor. For
example, ritual organizers might distribute twigs or small pieces of paper
to all the attendees, who are then asked to concentrate on something they
want to release in their lives. Then participants are asked to come to the
center of the circle and throw the object into a fire, focusing on letting
go. If you prefer not to engage in the particular action, it is usually
simple to "pass" politely to the next person.
- Feasting:
Food and drink - often seasonal - are blessed and shared. This
feels pretty familiar to most folks, as it is a ritual action occuring in
many religions. Usually food and drink are passed around the circle, and
you may hear the statements "May you never hunger" and "May you never
thirst." Before or after eating, ritual leaders may "libate" - give
offerings of food and drink for the gods. Sometimes, in larger public
rituals, food and drink are shared after the ritual instead of during it.
- Saying farewell to the gods and the four elements, and closing the
circle.
This is basically a reversal of the initial invocation and
circle-casting, but it usually goes much more quickly! Leaders may end
de-vocations with a statement like "Hail and farewell", which is usually
repeated by the group. A saying commonly heard at the end of the ritual is
the following: "The circle is open but unbroken. Merry meet and merry part
and merry meet again." (This may be said or sung; group members often join
in speaking or singing.)
Things NOT To Do
- Don't violate basic rules of respect and civility (e.g. laugh during a
serious meditation, make fun of someone, talk loudly while someone else is
talking, take more than your fair share of food/drink, and so on).
- Do not touch tools or objects on an altar unless you are specifically
invited to do so (e.g. "Everyone, take a piece of paper from the bowl on
the altar.")
- Don't leave the circle without asking someone to "cut a door" for you.
It probably won't offend everyone, but it's an easy way to offend
someone.
- Do not preach your religious beliefs to others. Even if you believe
everyone in
the room is going to hell, you are still a guest at their ceremony and
ought to remain respectful. Of course you can discuss your beliefs
politely with others, but don't be persistent or judgmental.
I've tried to present a fairly standardized version here to help folks
become comfortable with the basics. However, individual rituals may
vary quite a bit from this outline. I encourage you to attend Pagan
rituals with an open mind and a willingness to participate and learn.
You can also check out this page for a more extensive set of guidelines:
Attending Open
Rituals.